Moving abroad with children after a divorce
Over the weekend, I received an e-mail from Lisette. The previous Friday evening, she had found a subpoena (‘dagvaarding’) on her doormat. Her ex-partner Jim had initiated preliminary relief proceedings…
International divorce; a practical case
Annemarie calls me from Singapore. She moved there 8 years ago because of her work and that of her (also Dutch) husband. They are expats. Annemarie has 2 children; a…
Divorcing a narcissist
I often receive phone calls from women who want to divorce a husband with a narcissistic personality disorder. These women often don’t dare to cut off the relationship. Or they…
Parenting Coordination; binding advice for divorced parents
What is Parenting Coordination? Parenting coordination is a new form of conflict resolution in The Netherlands for recently-divorced parents. By means of parenting coordination, parents can resolve their conflicts without…
Divorce without a judge
Getting a divorce can also be done without a judge. You can do this by means of a collaborative divorce (or: consultative divorce). In this kind of divorce, each spouse…
How to respond to a threat of international child abduction
In divorce situations it is not uncommon for one partner to threaten the other partner. At times it is difficult to assess how serious the threats are. You often see…
I want a divorce; where do I begin?
You are considering a divorce but have no idea where to begin. The decision to get a divorce is one of the toughest decisions you’ll have to make in life….
Mediation via video call
With the measures being taken to prevent the further spread of the coronavirus, our office holds its meetings remotely, i.e. by telephone or video call (an online conference call). Additionally,…
How do I tell our kids we’re getting divorced?
How do I tell our kids we’re getting divorced? By having what in Dutch is called a paraplugesprek (umbrella conversation), which could be described in English as a safety-net conversation:…
The second wave and child custody
The second wave of the Coronavirus seems to have arrived. During the first wave, we noticed a lot of uncertainty around child custody and care arrangements. Can we continue in…