Double last name for child; is this an option?
Tessa and Laura became parents of their beautiful son Teun in early 2023, with the help of a good friend who offered to be a donor. Laura is Teun’s biological…
Intentional co-parenting and financial arrangements
Intentional co-parenting and financial arrangements Co-parenting means that an “equal” division of care has been agreed upon between parents (i.e., where the children are present with one legal parent for…
5 tips when entering into a donor agreement
5 tips when entering into a donor agreement Unfortunately, current law is still such that children can only have two legal and two custodial parents. In multi-parenting, there are more…
5 tips on parenting and custody in an intentional multi-parent relationship
Unfortunately, current law is still such that children can only have two legal and two custodial parents. In multi-parenting, there are more than two parents. Sometimes there are three parents…
10 tips on entering into intentional multi-parenthood
Multiple parenting is spoken of when there are more than two parents. Consider a male couple with a female couple who decide to have a baby together. Or a male…
5 tips for when multi-parenting isn’t going well
Multi-parenthood is spoken of when there are more than two parents. Consider a male couple who decide to have a child together with a female couple. This is also called…
Two women and a known donor; what needs to be arranged?
Two women and a known donor; what needs to be arranged? If a man and a woman are married or in a registered partnership and the woman gives birth to…
Moving abroad with children after a divorce
Over the weekend, I received an e-mail from Lisette. The previous Friday evening, she had found a subpoena (‘dagvaarding’) on her doormat. Her ex-partner Jim had initiated preliminary relief proceedings…
International divorce; a practical case
Annemarie calls me from Singapore. She moved there 8 years ago because of her work and that of her (also Dutch) husband. They are expats. Annemarie has 2 children; a…
Divorcing a narcissist
I often receive phone calls from women who want to divorce a husband with a narcissistic personality disorder. These women often don’t dare to cut off the relationship. Or they…
Parenting Coordination; binding advice for divorced parents
What is Parenting Coordination? Parenting coordination is a new form of conflict resolution in The Netherlands for recently-divorced parents. By means of parenting coordination, parents can resolve their conflicts without…
Divorce without a judge
Getting a divorce can also be done without a judge. You can do this by means of a collaborative divorce (or: consultative divorce). In this kind of divorce, each spouse…
How to respond to a threat of international child abduction
In divorce situations it is not uncommon for one partner to threaten the other partner. At times it is difficult to assess how serious the threats are. You often see…
I want a divorce; where do I begin?
You are considering a divorce but have no idea where to begin. The decision to get a divorce is one of the toughest decisions you’ll have to make in life….
Mediation via video call
With the measures being taken to prevent the further spread of the coronavirus, our office holds its meetings remotely, i.e. by telephone or video call (an online conference call). Additionally,…