Double last name for child; is this an option?
Tessa and Laura became parents of their beautiful son Teun in early 2023, with the help of a good friend who offered to be a donor. Laura is Teun’s biological…
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Intentional co-parenting and financial arrangements
Intentional co-parenting and financial arrangements Co-parenting means that an “equal” division of care has been agreed upon between parents (i.e., where the children are present with one legal parent for…
5 tips when entering into a donor agreement
5 tips when entering into a donor agreement Unfortunately, current law is still such that children can only have two legal and two custodial parents. In multi-parenting, there are more…
5 tips on parenting and custody in an intentional multi-parent relationship
Unfortunately, current law is still such that children can only have two legal and two custodial parents. In multi-parenting, there are more than two parents. Sometimes there are three parents…
10 tips on entering into intentional multi-parenthood
Multiple parenting is spoken of when there are more than two parents. Consider a male couple with a female couple who decide to have a baby together. Or a male…
5 tips for when multi-parenting isn’t going well
Multi-parenthood is spoken of when there are more than two parents. Consider a male couple who decide to have a child together with a female couple. This is also called…
Two women and a known donor; what needs to be arranged?
Two women and a known donor; what needs to be arranged? If a man and a woman are married or in a registered partnership and the woman gives birth to…
Moving abroad with children after a divorce
Over the weekend, I received an e-mail from Lisette. The previous Friday evening, she had found a subpoena (‘dagvaarding’) on her doormat. Her ex-partner Jim had initiated preliminary relief proceedings…
International divorce; a practical case
Annemarie calls me from Singapore. She moved there 8 years ago because of her work and that of her (also Dutch) husband. They are expats. Annemarie has 2 children; a…
How do I tell our kids we’re getting divorced?
How do I tell our kids we’re getting divorced? By having what in Dutch is called a paraplugesprek (umbrella conversation), which could be described in English as a safety-net conversation:…